She often repeats: Do you agree? or What about you? Viorst begins her essay by describing how she contrasts herself to society which lies about lying. It was very difficult to her to do it. Finally she reached to present conclusion, a series of moral puzzles all concerned with lying, and she tells us what she thinks about them. Social Lies, in the form of little white lies, says Viorst, satisfactory and required to behave. Most people think it is assailing to be clear honesty without these little white lies, they say, our relationships would be short and ferocious and yucky-yucky. Our honesty can be painful and embarrassing.
Viorst goes on to ask several examples of questions there the society insincerely, disingenuously lies. You know! Viorst goes on to refer to one person who absolutely rejects telling social lies. I cant play that game, he speaks; Im simply not made that way. And his answer to the argument that saying nice things to someone doesnt cost anything was, Yes, it does-it destroys your credibility. Now, he wont offer his views on the painting you just bought, but you dont ask his frank opinion unless you want frankness and his quietness at those moments when the rest of the liars are speak softly, Isnt it lovely? was, for the most part, eloquent enough.
Her friend does not humor in what he calls flattery, false praise and mellifluous comments. When others tell fibs he will not go along. He says that social lying is lying, that little white lies are still lies. And he feels that telling lies was morally wrong. Viorst goes on to say that many people tell Peace-Keeping Lie to avoid irritation or arguments, lies designed to shelter the liar from possible blame or pain. Lies rationalized designed to keep trouble at bay without hurting.
But during to tell these lies, Viorst feels guilty herself. She understands why they tell lye. And whenever she lies so that someone wont disapprove of her or think less of her or holler at her, she feels she is a little of a shy, she feels she tricks her responsibilities. To continue Viorst goes on asking questions for example there we, (society), are lying because of fear to look bed. Viorst recalls about Dave and his wife Elaine. Dave blames Elaine in a coward. Because she lies to her mother to protect her.
Further Viorst provides several examples of telling lies to keep peace. The author introduces Protective Lies like contrast to Peace-Keeping Lie. Protective lies preserve to a person thereof you lie. They lie, not for personal gain but because they love¦ (And again she represents examples. ) But sometimes society lies for manipulation and control, says Viorst. It is us playing God. and one thing more: it happens to lie again and again to back up previous lie. Further Viorst touched on sex lie theme.
She starts it by expect some may think sex lie unimportant, a little more than social lying, not more than politeness that makes all human intercourse, like lubricant, to run swimmingly. Others, supposedly, sex lie unacceptable on behalf of relationships as destructive phenomenon. But there are third kinds of people, who consider sex lie. They, actually, mean sex lie protects relationships because everybodys ego is sometime fragile. To continue Viorst cites a quotation of Sue. Sue asks a question: I cant believe its good to say, Last night was four stars, darling, but tonights performance rates only a half.
Viorst is inclined to agree with Sue. Another group, Viorst continued, of lies are trust-keeping lies, lies that involve triangulation, with A (thats you) telling lies to B on behalf of C (whose trust theyd promised to keep). Most people concede that once theyve agreed not to betray a friends confidence, they cant betray it, even if you must lie. But shes talked with people who dont want you telling them anything that they might be called on to lie about. Viorst recites I dont tell lies for myself, says Fran, and I dont want to have to tell them for other people.
Which means, she agrees, that if her best friend is having an affair, she absolutely doesnt want to know about it? Are you saying, her best friend asks, that if I went off with a lover and I asked you to tell my husband Id been with you, that you wouldnt lie for me, that youd betray me? Fran was very pained but very adamant. I wouldnt want to betray you, so ¦ dont ask me. Frans best friend is shocked. Viorst asks: Do you believe you can have close friends if youre not prepared to receive their deepest secrets?
And what if your friend was your boss-if you were perhaps one of the Presidents men-would you betray or lie for him over, say, Watergate? As you can see, these issues get terribly sticky. Its my belief that once weve promised to keep a trust, we must tell lies to keep it. I also believe that we cant tell Watergate lies. And if these two statements strike you as quite contradictory, youre right-theyre quite contradictory. But for now theyre the best I can do. Some say, Viorst is asking questions, that truth will come out and thus they might as well tell the truth.
Some say they cant regain the trust that lies lose. Some say that even though the truth may never be revealed, our lies pervert and damage our relationships. Some say ¦ well, heres what some of them have to say. Im a coward, says Grace, about telling close people important, difficult truths. I find that Im unable to carry it off. And so if something is bothering me, it keeps building up inside till I end up just not seeing them anymore. She lies to her husband on sexual things, but she was furious, says Joyce, that he was too insensitive to know she was lying.
She suffered most from the misconception that children cant take the truth, says Emily. But she was starting to see that whats harder and more damaging for them were being told lies, was not being told the truth. Lying isnt social category, I think. It is moral category. And humanity has received morality from God. Us inference, we cannot investigate lie without God or without Bible. We have to research this phenomenon in human mutual relations through prism of Bible. Without it all reasoning will be just words and conclusions will be false. And why Viorst doesnt make conclusions? What do you mean?